How did we get here? What does one say to cultural absurdities that seem too ridiculous to warrant a response?
“Were they ashamed when they committed abomination? No, they were not at all ashamed; they did not know how to blush. Therefore they shall fall among those who fall; at the time that I punish them, they shall be overthrown,” says the LORD.
Jeremiah 6:15 (ESV, emphasis added)
Our culture has taken shamelessness as a badge – wearing it around their necks as a medal of their authenticity and pride.
The latest shameless proclamation by the taste-makers in our society is that gender is fluid, malleable, and even erasable. Any areas of distinction are new forts where the shameless set up camp and shame anyone who disagrees. “Cool-shaming,” it’s been called: using Twitter and other social media to rain down hatred on anyone who doesn’t toe the newest party line: Gender Doesn’t Matter.
First it was marriage: Gender Doesn’t Matter. “If you don’t like gay marriage,” they said, “don’t get ‘gay-married.’” Which was fine until it wasn’t. Until bakers were forced to close their doors and attend reeducation camps because they didn’t want to decorate cakes celebrating what they thought to be a lie. Until a judge… a photographer… a college employee… a farmer…were all punished for excercising their first amendment rights.
And now it is the bathrooms and locker rooms: Gender Doesn’t Matter. “If a trans-gender man feels uncomfortable,” they said, “s/he should be able to use whichever bathroom s/he wants.” But anyone with eyes to see knows where this is headed.
Make no mistake, the goal is fully integrated bathrooms. Why? Because “In the beginning, God created them male and female.” This is nothing less than a railing against the Creator, against the created order.
So why is this lack of gender distinction a big deal?
1. Separate bathrooms provide a barrier between the sexes. There is a beautiful mystery, an “otherness” that is drawn in the distinct lines between genders. For centuries, bathrooms and bath houses have been places where same-gender friends can relax – without trying to impress – to revel in sameness. Women going to the bathroom in groups may provide fodder for sexist jokes, but there is a reason this has been the case for so long.
And worst of all, this is happening in schools (per an order by President Obama), where girls have long congregated in bathrooms to help each other deal with issues regarding their changing bodies. What young girl hasn’t had a that-time-of-the-month mishap that resulted in a sweatshirt tied around the waist, running to the bathroom? What happens to that girl when she gets to a bathroom that has middle school boys in it? This is not an unlikely scenario, and it is a sad one for our daughters.
2. Separate bathrooms protect women and children. Most women can attest to having seen a “woman” in their bathroom who looked suspiciously like a man. None of those women (myself included) ever made a big deal or said anything in these situations. If a man committed to the part and presented himself as a female, nothing happened. But NOW, women are supposed to applaud men who at any given time want to identify as a woman and use the women’s restroom. So now, a creepy man can be in the bathroom to watch little girls, but if he claims to identify as a woman, Target employees will do nothing about it.
In a Seattle locker room recently, this very thing happened. A man went into a woman’s locker room when young girls were changing for swim practice. Staff was called. The man didn’t even claim to be a woman, yet the staff did nothing. People are so afraid of the “cool-shaming” that would occur if they went against the politically correct Gestapo, that they would let little girls be put at risk. And more women are speaking out about their past abuse and how harmful this lack of barrier between sexes is.
3. Separate bathrooms maintain distinctions that validate what we all know to be true. When we agree to call things by the wrong names, we further our delusions. Watch this video for how our dishonesty with labels leads to a complete breakdown of logic. A white man of average height asks college students if they would believe him if he told them he was female. “Sure,” they said. Would they believe him if he said he was Asian? They said yes. What if he told them he was 7 years old? Again, these college students said, “yes, if that’s how you feel.” The man asked if, as a 7-year-old, he should be allowed to attend first grade. “YES.” Then he asked if he could identify as 6 ft. 5in man. This was the point at which the students hesitated. You see, they have access to rulers. They’ve taken a certain number of math classes (though apparently they skipped biology). And tall people are not yet considered a protected class. We are supporting delusions when we allow people to say that age is a mental construct, that height is measured in mental units, that there is no difference between men and women.
4. Separate bathrooms prevent gender blurring in other areas. With Obama’s nonsensical order, the president twisted a federal law in such a way that public schools MUST allow students to use the bathroom/locker rooms of their choosing, based on their ambiguous self-identifying. In overnight situations, students must be permitted to sleep where they choose — a separate space is not good enough. Oh, and students must be allowed to play sports with the gender of their choosing; he claims all this falls under Title IX and has threatened to pull federal funding from schools who disagree with him.
If a boy identifies as a girl, and joins the girls’ soccer team, there will be trouble. Men will take over women’s sports (because what man who wants a scholarship wouldn’t be willing to spend a year identifying as female without having to do anything other than speak it?). And even men who truly believe they are women would still be detrimental to women on the field because of their physical and hormonal make-up (i.e., their sex). Women will lose by being relegated to the sidelines while their female-in-their-minds-only counterparts dominate school sports’ fields.
Obviously, this is a big deal. So what can we do about it?
1. Do not exchange truth for a lie. We do people no favors when we support their delusions. A 6’4” human being with a deep voice and a 5 o’clock shadow is a man. Even if he’s wearing a really pretty dress. We should be kind and respectful and polite and loving with our words and actions, being careful to define these words biblically and not as the world defines them. But if we believe that “male and female, He created them,” then we have to believe that this is the way God wants us to view people also. Be willing to be uncool. You can’t please the masses, for they don’t want to be pleased by anything bearing the name of Christ.
2. Do not be overwhelmed by the cultural tide, believing that you can do nothing. If a private business like Target enacts policies that (literally) open the door for men to go victim-hunting, then we can take our business elsewhere. As a private business, Target should be free to put their public toilets in the TV aisle for their customers’ convenience if they want. But we don’t have to shop there. It’s not practical for us to boycott every offensive business. But when a centuries-old cultural boundary marker is being moved, we all need to head on over and say, “Not so fast.”
Also, the time has come for parents to reexamine whether or not to keep their kids in public schools. Local school districts are being robbed of control. The overreach of the federal government is happening quickly — please read this document so that you are aware of what is coming rapidly down the pipe from President Obama and into public schools. Schools that do not comply risk lawsuits and losing federal aid (which most schools cannot afford to do).
3. Pray. Pray for parents to have wisdom in teaching children to appreciate the gender God gifted them with in the womb. Pray for the children who already feel insecure about their gender, or who have been sexually abused, and/or are terrified to go to school bathrooms or locker rooms because they are no longer safe. Pray for all our children, caught in the machinery of this social experiment, this rebellion against the Creator.
4. Rest. All authority in Heaven and on Earth has been given to HIM. Jesus is Lord of all. This is not a surprise, this is not outside His plan. Know that this, too, is part of a greater story of God’s glory. The more this radical agenda plays out, the more absurd it becomes. Some will be brought to repentance as they see the sharpening contrast between man’s intellectual dishonesty and God’s infinite truth. I pray that there will even be a revival. We can rest in the sovereignty of God, even in this.
Blushing, as a right response to shame, leads a nation to repentance and trust in God. Then God will bring beauty and joy out of the shame of our lives and the shamelessness of our culture:
“Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD,
whose trust is the LORD.
He is like a tree planted by water,
that sends out its roots by the stream,
and does not fear when heat comes,
for its leaves remain green,
and is not anxious in the year of drought
for it does not cease to bear fruit.”
Jeremiah 17:7-8 (ESV, emphasis added)